A rant

I’ve read two articles recently that have had me fuming.

The first was by Ellen Seidman, son of inspirational Purple Max, a boy who like Ashley doesn’t let his challenges get in his way.

The full story tells of a restaurant manager who is getting fined for flat refusing to serve a family which included three girls with a skin condition. He actually asked them to leave.

The second was on the BBC’s news site and told of an elderly woman with dementia who was on a council minibus and was to be returned to her care home. Her driver didn’t notice she was still on the bus at the depot and went home with her leaving her overnight. What was more distressing was that her care home didn’t miss her!

The more fragile members of our society should be given more consideration than this.

This is the 21st century people so why are we still seeing people with challenges as less important or less valid than we are?

A couple on the Isle of man was refused a rental property because they were gay. Their sexuality isn’t a Challenge but it is a difference in the yes of many. They were told in a simple friendly way that this was the case, no subterfuge. They sought legal action and found the law supported the landlord. When brought to the attention of the Lieutenant Governor (chief honcho) he said he was appalled and would seek change – odd that he didn’t know about it though…

I think the problem lies in changing attitude.

Over time values change. Some folk are at the spearhead of this and others lag.

In the past, as a young man, I found my views were idealistic and to be honest impractical.

Society has a lot of inertia and new ideas take a long time to gel.

Being blessed with Ashley has opened my eyes to the plight of folk with challenges but I still find some of my views are a bit old fashioned.

Compared to the baddies in these stories though I feel saintly though.

Maybe the trick lies in taking a step back when we see or interact with people who seem different. Rather than going with our first (outdated) reaction, we smile and see the person then take action…….


Author: dderbydave

Father of three girls and a son who is disabled but doesn't let it get in his way (try youtubing "ashleyjameswood.com"). Happily married. Taught primary school for 7 years, lived in Oz for 6 years, was an Operations Manager for 5 years, chaired a PTA, now a 50-something Dad-taxi-bank-judge-cook-cleaner da-dee-da-dee-dah

4 thoughts on “A rant”

  1. I often feel humbled when I think of/see people less fortunate than me. I don’t know why or how I have been blessed with being normal. The roll of dice has been in my favour, and it humbles me that this has happened for no reason at all.
    This thought always gives me a better perspective of my life and blessings.

    1. Perspective is a good thing to have. Many go through life blinkered to their own tiny existence. Appreciating what you don’t have to go through on a daily basis, that many are much worse off than you, is a valuable thing. What we’ve also found is the absolute treasure this little boy is just being in our lives. Every day (not an exaggeration) someone says something nice about him. We notice this trait in other severely disabled kids too. They shine and find their own way of contributing to their world, despite their challenges, which often surpasses normal folk.

  2. A young boy born without hands is a champion swimmer despite his handicap. His wish was to get artificial hands, which apparently he wasn’t entitled to under the medical system! Newspaper rang the story and the public supplied the $3000AUS he needed for hands. The most needy are too often the worst treated – more dignity, more respect for them

    1. Sweet story. I bet his Mum is a real rottweiller of an advocate for the little man.
      Wonder if you’ve come across Nick Vujicic on Youtube? Massively inspiring guy does talks on life without limbs.

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